How and Why I Stay Married
Good Morning Lovers!
As we approach Valentine's Day in another year I am thinking about post Valentine's Day. I'm not a believer in expressing my love one day out of the year. Currently, I am working on the first ever H.A.W.I.S.M. seminar and book release. I have been finding my way as a marriage counselor. The one thing I have noticed is we are not doing marriage according to God's model. I think trying to articulate this sentiment is the reason I started this blog - The Marriage Mirror Challenge.
However, since I began the blog is seems my greatest lessons on the subject have come from the things I have gone through with my husband. I love him dearly. Still we have gone through so much, most of which I attribute to having known him since elementary school. From age a 11 until now we have about 2 decades between us. So, call it growing pains. Spiritually, it's exactly what they were. Our endurance has been tested and given a chance to grow. By the God's grace we have grown.
It has been in our tests that I have seen God's intention in marriage; for us to love each other the way he loves us. He is God and his expectation is that we would take the same actions in marriage that he takes in his marriage to us. I asked God to show me how I have stayed married despite my circumstances over this period time. Not just stayed to married, but also how in everything my husband and I have been through in the time we have known each other how it is that we keep coming back to each other.
The answer was in four components: worship, conversation, connection and forgiveness. These components are the basis of my new release How and Why I Stay Married. It's my testimony and my hope that couples who read it will overcome by the power of testimony. Now, that I have an understanding of God's process with me, I feel a little more at ease to follow it. Oh, I expect there to be more testing. (Heck, I'm at the end of my most recent level of testing right now, but that's a testimony for another time.)
So keep watching this blog and my Facebook to join us on the Marriage Mirror Challenge. Use the #HAWISM to tell us why you stay married.
As we approach Valentine's Day in another year I am thinking about post Valentine's Day. I'm not a believer in expressing my love one day out of the year. Currently, I am working on the first ever H.A.W.I.S.M. seminar and book release. I have been finding my way as a marriage counselor. The one thing I have noticed is we are not doing marriage according to God's model. I think trying to articulate this sentiment is the reason I started this blog - The Marriage Mirror Challenge.
However, since I began the blog is seems my greatest lessons on the subject have come from the things I have gone through with my husband. I love him dearly. Still we have gone through so much, most of which I attribute to having known him since elementary school. From age a 11 until now we have about 2 decades between us. So, call it growing pains. Spiritually, it's exactly what they were. Our endurance has been tested and given a chance to grow. By the God's grace we have grown.
It has been in our tests that I have seen God's intention in marriage; for us to love each other the way he loves us. He is God and his expectation is that we would take the same actions in marriage that he takes in his marriage to us. I asked God to show me how I have stayed married despite my circumstances over this period time. Not just stayed to married, but also how in everything my husband and I have been through in the time we have known each other how it is that we keep coming back to each other.
The answer was in four components: worship, conversation, connection and forgiveness. These components are the basis of my new release How and Why I Stay Married. It's my testimony and my hope that couples who read it will overcome by the power of testimony. Now, that I have an understanding of God's process with me, I feel a little more at ease to follow it. Oh, I expect there to be more testing. (Heck, I'm at the end of my most recent level of testing right now, but that's a testimony for another time.)
So keep watching this blog and my Facebook to join us on the Marriage Mirror Challenge. Use the #HAWISM to tell us why you stay married.
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